Friday, March 27, 2015

Wedding Wise Weekly - March 25

Every week I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Weekly. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Six wedding cakes. Aury saw a picture of this exact thing by Martha Stewart a few years ago, and that's exactly what she wanted for her wedding on Saturday.  And thats what she had. Three different cakes by Lark bakery in Silver Lake - Ice box (nearly cried when I tried it, soooo good), Lemon, and chocolate. Gorgeous, and a total hit. Aury and her husband Eduardo had the best time at the wedding, and I had a wonderful time helping them create the day, and watching them just enjoy it. Congratulations, you guys!

Cool, too:

This night shot of their wedding. I'm getting better at this iphone photo thing, I think. This is what your excellent backyard/bare venue wedding can look like, too. Stay tuned...

The Events:

Sunday, March 29
12:00pm - 4:00pm

The Great Bridal Expo
Westin Bonaventure Los Angeles
404 South Figueroa Street
Los Angeles, CA 90071
Admission: $8.00 online, $10 at the door

11:00am - 4:00pm
Doubletree Hotel Monrovia - Open House
924 West Huntington Drive
Monrovia, CA 91016
An afternoon of hors d'oeuvres, cocktails, and special wedding event pricing. Admission: Free!

The Deals:

One of my couples told me about this one - from now until April 5th, you can get 15% off their wedding invitation suites. Plus free shipping on orders over $50 (which is pretty much a given), when you order online with the code WED15, or order in any of the local stores. GO.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Contact me to schedule your free wedding consultation:

Saturday, March 21, 2015

Keep Your Wedding Balances in Balance

Photo: Lauren Lindley Photography

My weekly column on The Broke-Ass Bride is up: 

You know it -- your wedding money is being thrown around fast and furious. Hundreds, thousands of dollars. Tens of thousands of dollars. Not all at once, mostly. But the word “eventually” looms closer every day.
So, what I’m trying to say is this post isn’t so much about budgeting as it is about stress relief. And a lot that means getting ahead of the stress in the first place.

Do This One Thing
Put all your payment due dates, with the current estimated cost in whatever calendar you look at the most -- the one in your phone, the one on your wall, the one in your wedding notebook. Do it right now. Set or write an alert for a week or a couple of days ahead of time, whatever works for your schedule or will work with your bank account. Not so far ahead that it’s easy to forget (like a month before) but close enough so that you have enough time to pull together the funds, if you need to. You know how you are, so proceed accordingly. Bonus points for noting the method of payment, too.

Do This Other Thing
Any payment you can automate, do it. I take automated payments from my couples, and odds are your venue, you photographer and most of your other vendors do, too. Combining it with your alerts will keep you on track, or give you time to change tracks (or credit cards) if you need to. Also, Venmo is a great way to pay vendors quickly and easily right from your phone. It's the app of life, y'all.

Have This One Place
So, you’ve taken care of the wedding payment trees, don’t ignore the forest that’s your wedding budget! Have one place -- an Excel sheet, a Google Doc spreadsheet, heck, a Word document -- where you list the total cost of all this stuff! One place where it’s all accounted for, all added up and where you always know what you’re spending and what you’ve spent. When you can see the big picture, you’re setting yourself up to make the best choices, and take many, many deep breaths of relief.

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Friday, March 20, 2015

Wedding Wise Weekly - March 20

Every week I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Weekly. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

Photo: Libby Neder Photography  
From The Knot: "This couple was over unity ceremonies, so they cracked a beer, instead." Read their story, it's The Coolest. Candle and flame, no. She poured the Harps and he poured the Guinness to create a Black and Tan? Yup. I helped an English couple who created a British tea ceremony last year. Whatever you do, make your wedding yours, okay?

The Events:

Sunday, March 22
10am - 4pm
Bride World Expo
Pasadena Convention Center
250 E. Green Street
Pasadena, CA 91101

Monday, March 23
LGBT Luxury Wedding Fashion Show
Hudson Loft
1200 S. Hope St 

Los Angeles, CA 90015
Admission: $25

Tuesday, March 24
Wedding Salon Luxury Bridal Showcase
InterContinental Century City, Los Angeles 
2151 Avenue of the Stars

Los Angeles, CA 90067
Tickets for this show are usually $75 but you can get two free tickets with the code WSLAC. Free. You're welcome!

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Natalie's Blog Hop: Spring Wedding Weather Hacks

Welcome to our March Blog Hop!
This month we are focusing on all things Spring  Get ready for some great ideas, inspiration and how-to as you move along through the hop.
You may just be starting the blog hop or may have come from Katherine Shorter's  Creating Awesomenessity. If you get off track at any time, the full lineup below will help you move along from blog to blog so you make sure to see and learn from all of the articles featured here today.
Photo: Sun-Dance Photography

Spring can get a little tricky, wedding wise. It is a universal, but widely shunned truth: Whatever the weather would usually be on your wedding day is, well, what the weather will probably be on your wedding day. 

1. Rain. Those May flowers don't come out of nowhere. If your wedding is outdoors, talk to your venue about indoor options. If there aren't any, talk to a rental company about getting a tent. Make sure that last conversation includes knowing the last day you can rent a tent. Better to have on reserve and not need, than to need and not have. 

2. Heat. Not to mention humidity. Summer might show up early, so what does that mean for your guests? If they're going to be in direct sunlight during your ceremony or reception, what can you do? Not everyone will use a fan, but it will be appreciated. I've had brides who've bought parasols for their guests. Again, not everyone will use them, but the thought will count this time. Fans also work, but they can be noisy, so position them strategically. Definitely have iced water, tea, or lemonade available during the ceremony. Be careful what you leave in direct sunlight, too. Wedding cake melts. Badly.
Photo: B & G Photography

3. Cold. Here in Los Angeles, the temperature drops pretty sharply once the sun goes down. Elsewhere, it can suddenly just be cold in April. Of course, "cold" to us is 55 degrees. What is it for you? Right. While you're asking about tents, ask about mushroom heaters, too. Or fire pits. Fire pits are fun, too!

4. Bugs. Gah! Mosquitos, especially. Here's a bunch of solutions I found on Pinterest, pick the one that's best for you, even if it's a bucket of mosquito repellent at the entrance and at the bar. That's not the type of scratching you want to do on your wedding night, you know?

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

The next stop on the Blog Hop is  Kimberly Parks at  KP Photography! Thanks for visiting and I'll  see you again next month!

March Blog Hop:

1. Natalie Bradley at Natalie Bradley Events
2. Ashley Rae at Ashley Rae Events
4. Kristi Richardson at Bloomed To Last
5. Chantal Benoit at Chantal Benoit Photographer
6. Irene Tyndale at Irene Tyndale Events 
7. Peter Merkle at Chicago Wedding DJs
8. Katrina McCullum at Made of Honor Weddings
10. Rachel Huntoon at Ashford Manor Bed & Breakfast
12. N’neka Scruggs at Images by N’neka
13. Teresa Rhodes at Nearly Nesters 
15. Katherine Shorter at Creating Awesomenessity
16. Liz Coopersmith at Silver Charm Events
17. Kimberly Parks at  KP Photography
18. Cindy Clearwater at Something Blue Virgin Islands
19. Anshwa Lewis at SwaLaRue Events
20. Nikki Michel at Ciao Bella Weddings
21. Daphne Simpson at Elite Design

Friday, March 13, 2015

Ask Liz: Your Grown Up Wedding

This week's article on The Broke Ass Bride is UP:

Credit:  Lucky Photographer
The first step to having a grown-up wedding is acknowledging that you're a grown-up. And that your guests and family are grown-ups. Marriage is the second most grown-up thing you can do. So, you might as well start now with the day that’s going to start it all off. In the immortal words of Monica Geller, “It sucks, you're going to love it.”

You’re saying Yes ... to Everything.

Your wedding is not something that's happening to you. From the cost, to the menu, to the dress, to the guest list, to the decorations. With a shrug, with a frown, with an enthusiastic clapping of hands. You opted in. It’s a big day, and a big undertaking and it’s easy to do it now and resent the hell out of it later. So, remember:

You can say No ... to Anything.

Easy to write, not so easy to do. I get yelled at a lot for this one. “I can’t say no to my parents [insert this thing they really want here], it’s impossible.” Nothing is impossible, but yes, some things are hard. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings, you’re afraid you’re going to sound like a rude jerk. We covered this a little last week. Most people are not great at conflict, whether they are used to it or not. Be clear that you don’t want it, thank them for the suggestion, if there is an alternative that you like, hype it. Don’t be defensive, smile, change the subject. Works, I swear.

Your Guests are Adults. They Are Also Human Beings in Your Spotlight.

It’s mostly you on stage, but it’s not just you. Everyone wants to get it right, so everyone can enjoy the day. Back your guests up where you can -- directional signs, someone standing by to help them find their place card. They do need to know where the restrooms are, they don’t have to be assigned a particular seat at a particular table. No one is going to freak out if you’re serving Coors Light and $5 wine instead of their choice of martini cocktails. Don’t think babysitting, just think “flow.” You cannot please everyone, but you can make it easier for them to enjoy themselves. What would you want if you were a guest? What would need? Make sure that’s covered.

Get Clear About Your Wedding Responsibilities

What goes into your wedding day must come out. When? Someone has to do it, and if it’s not you, then who? What are you allowed to do, and what are you not? Hint: If it has to be stuck on anything, sprinkled, lit or hung, ask first. How long do you have your vendors? When do they need to get paid? What do they need from you to do their job? Don’t assume they will stay later than asked and not get paid for that, or come earlier, or bring more equipment. Don’t make the day harder for them, because it’s going to end up being harder for you. That’s not going to be a good day.

Fly Casual

You have a destination -- your big fun, love- and joy-infused wedding day -- and you are on your way. You have to give it some time, but you’re going to get there. You don’t have to worry about whether you’re doing it, because you’re doing it. There are plenty of maps and resources to help you. Course corrections can be made -- they are not the end of the world or evidence that you are a crappy pilot. And when you get there, ENJOY THE DAY. That’s an order. It’s what adults do. And in the meantime, go easy on yourself, I can guarantee you’re doing a lot better than you think you are.
So, how are you taking a deep breath and putting on the big girl pants when it comes to your wedding? What do you think of my advice? Let me know in the comments below! And if you would like to learn a little more about me and and my part of Wedding World, come visit me at

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Wednesday, March 11, 2015

Wedding Wise Weekly - March 11

Every week I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

Colin Cowie Weddings - Frameable! Ask your photographer to get a picture of your bridesmaids holding their bouquets in the shape of your new last initial. 

The Events: 

Sunday, March 15
Premier Bridal Shows
11am - 3pm
Le Meridien Delfina Santa Monica
530 Pico Blvd.
Penthouse Ballroom

Santa Monica, CA 90405

Admission: $10 at the door. Register online with coupon code WWD2 for two free tickets.

11am - 3pm
Bridal Showplace
Hyatt Regency Long Beach
200 S. Pine Avenue
Long Beach, CA 90802
Admission: $7 online, $10 at the door

Mark your calendar!

Thursday, March 19
6:30 PM - 9:30 PM
The Big Fake Wedding 
440 Seaton
440 Seaton Street
Los Angeles, CA 90013
This is pretty cool. Basically, this is a re-inactment of a renewal ceremony and reception, where you can actually watch vendors in action. And, you get appetizers, drinks and dinner.
Admission: Website, $25. Get your ticket on Living Social for only $13. See you there!

The Deals

Unique Vintage Bridal - The bad news? Unique Vintage in Burbank is liquidating their wedding dress inventory after March 22. I've sent a bunch of my Brides to them, and everyone has left happy and beautiful, aww! The good news? All Allure Bridal and Maggie Sottero gowns are 50% OFF until then. Wait, you're still here reading this?? GO.

See  you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Friday, March 06, 2015

Your Family vs. Your Guest List

My column on The Broke-Ass Bride is up...

How do you reserve these seats? 
Photography: Life's Highlights
Last week, I got an email from a bride who didn’t have a problem yet, but was anticipating a huge one. She and her fiance want a small wedding, surrounded by their good friends and close family. She was pretty sure that wasn’t going to happen once her mother got ahold of the list. What if her Mom insisted on inviting the 120 family members that she would probably want to add to that list? There’s a ton of you worried about the same thing. I know there’s a few (unnamed) couples on my roster who are, for sure.

So, how to combat that? For starters, stop thinking about it as a battle. It’s a wedding, its not a war. And if you keep looking at everything as a potential conflict, that’s exactly what you’ll find. I’m not so zen that I’m saying the guest list won’t be an issue. I...have parents, too. And what I (eventually) figured out was that it’s easier if you manage their expectations of your expectations. You're not going to be able to avoid the conversation with them, but you can certainly put it into context.

Get specific with your numbers
Sit down with your fiance and make a list of everyone the two of you want to invite. It won't take long, but go over it a couple more times to make sure you didn't miss anyone, and that you included their significant others. Now, given that list, how many more people are you willing to have at your wedding? So, say you come up with a list of 50 people, or 25 couples. Are you willing to have another 50 people at your wedding, to bring it to 100? Another 25 people to bring it to 75? Think about it as people, and think about it as tables. 50 people is five tables, 100 people is 10. What feels right to you?

Be straightforward, and tell the truth: "We want to keep the guest list to 100 people, and we have 50 people that we want to invite. Can you help us and give us a list of the 50 people you want to invite by (make up a date in the next couple of weeks)?" This is what we want, this is what we have so far, this is what we're asking from you, and here's the date we need it by. We really appreciate your help! DO NOT under any circumstances, apologize. You’re not being mean, you’re not being rude, DO not get defensive. Just state what you want, which is a wedding with this number of people. Ask for their help. And then change the subject as quick as you can. Check in a couple of times before your deadline. Be prepared to have the conversation again. Express gratitude for their help as often as you can.

Bonus points - Get specific with the costs
For extra credit, if you've already booked a venue and/or caterer, figure out out how much it is going to cost per person and for the entire group, and give that to her, too. So, say, your venue is $2500. if catering is $75 per person, plus tax and service (30% out here) = $97.50 per person, or $14,750 for 100 people. See? You’re trying to be reasonable by sticking to a reasonable budget, whether they’re paying for it or you are.
They’ll be thinking about those numbers while they’re going over their own list. And, again, Do NOT apologize! No, "I'm really sorry about this." For one thing, that’s a lie. For another, you’re not doing anything wrong. Ask her for help. Thank her for her help. Take a deep breath, and smile.

So, really, how many of you are facing a massive guest list from your folks that you don’t want? Got any questions about my advice? Let me know in the comments below! And if you’d like to find out about me and my little part of wedding world, visit me at

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Contact me to ask about your wedding:

Wednesday, March 04, 2015

Wedding Wise Weekly- March 4

Every Week I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Weekly Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Wondering what to do with your wedding dress after the Big Day? Well, you can turn it into lingerie. Yeah, I'm serious. Old New Borrowed Redo will turn your dress into lingerie, or a keepsake, or just about anything you want. Thanks to The Overwhelmed Bride for the find.

The Events:

Sunday, March 8
11an - 3pm
Premier Bridal Shows
Radisson Hotel - Newport Beach
4545 MacArthur Blvd.
Newport Beach, CA 92660
Brookside Golf Club

The Deals:

Ann's Bridal Bargains - Get their gorgeous send and seal invitations, and other wedding awesomeness on sale! Now until March 31st, use the code BROKE20 to save 20% off your entire order of $99 or more. Shouldn't be a problem - it's like Target over there.

My Wed Style - Order two or more custom hangers and use the code HANGERSALE to get free shipping.

Alfred Angelo - Save $400 on a made to order gown, plus an extra 20% off accessories. The sale ends on Saturday, March 21st. GO.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Tuesday, March 03, 2015

Tuesday Tip- Three Questions to Ask Potential Caterers

Photo: Honey Honey Photography

I've got a few couples that are looking at caterers right now, and the same questions issues keep popping up. It's important to compare apples to apples, So, after you've got your list of initial list of three prospects, but before you get proposals from them, ask them these three questions:

1. Is there a Food and Beverage minimum? A food and beverage minimum is how much you have to spend on food and beverage in order for them to cater. This could be in entirety, like, $16,000, or it could be by person, as in $70 per person. That question will tell you what the least amount is that you'll be charged, plus tax and service. 

2. Do they include rentals? If they do, that's one more thing you're not paying an additional amount for, and that you don't have to find/deal with. So, not just money, but also logistics. 

3. Are they going to be cooking on site, or bringing the food in and serving it? This will affect the rentals you'll need (i.e., portable stove, oven, barbecue pit...?) the staff you'll need, AND the space you'll need at your venue for a kitchen area. 

Like I said, these questions will make it easier to compare costs and services, and face a few less surprises down the road. You're welcome!

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events