Saturday, November 14, 2015

Moving Day

Moving, moving, moving...
I'm officially moving my blog to my website today - www.silvercharmevents.com.
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Thanks for reading and I'll see you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, November 11, 2015

Wedding Wise Wednesday - October 11

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:
Andi Mars Photography

Who needs fondant when you can build a cake entirely...out...of...OREOS?? Check out this awesomeness in the Huffington Post's article, 25 Wedding Desserts That Are Far More Exciting Than Cake. There's milk and cookie shots, people. You are welcome!

The Events:

Sunday, November 15
The Great Bridal Expo
12pm–4pm
Anaheim Convention Center
800 West Katella Avenue
Anaheim, CA, 92802
Admission: $8 online, $10 at the door



The Deals:


Lili Bridals: Tax Free November. They will pay the SALES TAX on any gown purchased at regular price during the month of November. Just mention this post, and their newsletter. Call to make your appointment at their Tarzana salon, 818-774-9700

Required reading:
Photo: Melissa Messina Photography
Martha Stewart Weddings: 7 Ways to Upgrade Your Wedding Menu. I love these, and some of them are easy and practical. All of a very "Concierge" level vibe. Check it out, see what's possible for you. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 


Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silverharmevents.com

Schedule your free consultation:
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Tuesday, November 10, 2015

Happy One Month Anniversary, Nicole and John (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

Nicole and John, October 10, 2015
Photos: Julie Patterson Photography
I can't believe this was already a month ago! We planned this wedding in six months, a Scottish-Peruvian-American fusion it was really a lot of fun, and a fun day. Thanks to the folks at Heritage Square Museum, Photographer Julie Patterson, John Kindleman at About Thyme Catering, Jeeza at Ace Party Rents, and Kim at Enchanted Florist for all their help in creating a fantastic wedding for these two.



See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Book your complimentary wedding consult today:
323-592-9318
liz@silverharmevnets.com

Friday, November 06, 2015

Ask Liz: Should we have kids at THIS wedding? (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

In or Out?
Photo: Liz Coopersmith
Dear Liz:

Our wedding is in March and we're sending out the invitations this month, before Thanksgiving. My fiance and I are kind of arguing about whether we should let our guests bring their children to the wedding. When we went to his cousin's wedding in August, someone's baby cried through the whole ceremony, and I watched his sister and brother-in law spend the the reception chasing after his two-year old nephew. I really don't want that kind of chaos at my wedding, but my fiance is afraid he's going to get in trouble with his family if we say "No kids." His best man has a baby, too. I think the parents appreciate the break , and they can find a babysitter and enjoy the evening. What should we do?

Signed, 

Little Troubles

Dear Troubles, 

Kids are tricky. People can - and will - get huffy if you tell them what they can and cannot do with their children. But,  you have the right to have the kind of wedding atmosphere you want. But then again, so does your fiance, and it sounds like he doesn't want to have to  explain why his sister and his best friend have to pay for babysitters. 

My go-to-advice with kids is the same as the advice I give about everything else. Do what you want, figure out how to make it work. In you case, however, I'll reverse that: Talk about different scenarios for making either option work , and then base your ultimate decision on what you're most comfortable with doing, and that gets you both closer to the wedding you want. He doesn't want any heat from his side of the aisle  and you want a peaceful day:

No Kids:
1. Write some version of "Adults Only Wedding and Reception" on your invitation.
2. Talk directly to the friends and family that would be affected and tell them you're not having kids at your wedding. Try and avoid the phrase, "Don't want." Definitely add that you hope that they will be able to attend anyway.
3. Some guest will miss the memo on this, and will RSVP for their children and/or ask about accommodations for them. This. Will. Happen.You will have to remind them that you're not hosting children, and you hope that they will stay be able to attend. 
4. Some guests will "miss" the memo or ignore it, won't RSVP for their children, and will bring them anyway. You have to be okay with that. No, they won't do that, you're thinking. Yeah, they will. Can't find a babysitter, they're bringing food for them, and they'll keep a close eye on them! 

We're not talking about a lot of people in options 3 & 4, but there will be at least a couple, and you're going to have to deal. 

5. If you're having flower girls and ring bearers, you can make them an exception, and you don't have to explain that to anyone. For one thing, it will be pretty obvious.

Yes Kids:

1. Provide a babysitting service at your wedding venue, and mention it on your invitation. Parents can drop children off at the beginning of the ceremony, with an option of visiting them throughout the wedding and reception. Some parents will end up bringing their kids into the reception with them, anyway, at some point. 
2. Talk to your friends and family individually who have small babies, specifically about the wedding ceremony, and you know, their crying babies. You can't assume they'll consider this on their own, and sit where they can leave easily. 
3. Ask a friend or wedding party member to act as an usher and seat families with small children and babies in the back of the ceremony. 
4. Ask your friends and family with kids if their child will need a high chair, a separate chair, or a meal. This, of course, will depend on how old the child is, but don't assume. A baby might be too young for a high chair, but their carrier can (and probably should) go on another chair. A ten year old might be too picky to eat steak or have allergies, so his parents are bringing a meal for them. You'll have to accommodate them, one way or another, but it is is a bit of extra legwork. 
5. Be okay with having kids at your wedding. Ultimately, their parents are responsible for them, and there is only so far you can manage that. If you've said "Yes," then you've got to stick with that, and let the chips fall where they may. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 


Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Schedule your complimentary wedding consultation:
liz@silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318







Tuesday, November 03, 2015

Silver Charm Events on Pinterest (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

I spent some time yesterday tweaking my wedding and lifestyle boards on Pinterest. Soo much Pretty. Follow me at www.pinterest.com/lizcharm

Silver Charm Events on Pinterest. Enjoy!
See you at the end of the aisle, 



Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

What do you need right now to create the wedding you want? Let's talk:
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323-592-9318

Friday, October 30, 2015

Ask Liz: Head Table vs. Guest Tables. GO!

So many tables, too many choices
Photo: Liz Coopersmith


Dear Liz, 

We're having a destination wedding in Mexico in July, and my fiancee and I are having a little quandary about the seating arrangements. We have a large wedding party - 8 bridesmaids and 8 groomsmen - and half of them are bringing significant others with them. It seems wrong to have non-wedding party members sit at the head table with us, but it also seems wrong to separate everyone from their spouses, boyfriends and girlfriends all night. Can we have our wedding party sit at guest tables, instead? What about us, do we sit alone, or can we sit with guests, too?


Signed, 

Musical Chairs

Dear Musical,

Yeah, that's actually the preferred solution, these days - seating your wedding party with their plus ones at guest tables. I also had three couples this year that decided to sit with  their guests, too. But, a sweetheart's table for two is still the most popular option.

Basically, you can do whatever you want. Whatever makes you feel comfortable, whatever is going to make your wedding party and guests feel comfortable, whatever works with your reception space. Decide what that is, and then all you have to do is figure out how to make it happen.


See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding:
liz@silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318

Wednesday, October 28, 2015

Wedding Wise Wednesday - October 28 (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

Every Wednesday I bring you the best stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:


Photo: Alan Katz, Great Officiants
My Altar Boss, Alan Katz, of Great Officiants, posted this picture on his Facebook page on Monday. He officiated a wedding at the Griffith Observatory for two men from China. They did not want a picture of their faces because gay marriages are not recognized in their country. I cried when I saw this, for a few reasons. As Alan wrote, #lovewins


The Events:

Lovella Logo
Thursday, November 5, 2015
7:00-9:00 pm
224 S. Brand Blvd. Glendale, CA

Lovella Bridal is celebrating their 45th anniversary with cocktails, fun, and the latest designs from the New York runway by designer Ines DiSanto. I was lucky enough to be invited to this last year, and you're going to have a wonderful time with lots and lots of pretty. RSVP   to info@LovellaBridal.com to register, or call 818-246-4637



The Deals:


Photo: La Soie Bridal
La Soie Bridal - Their Annual Sample Sale Event is on until November 14. Sample  designer gowns start at $299, which is 80% off retail. Call to make your appointment at their salon location in Torrance. 


Photo: Groopdeelz
Gropdeelz - Outfit your flower girls in style! Get a bundle of 25 grosgrain ribbon bows for $29.99. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding: 
Call/text 323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com


Friday, October 23, 2015

Ask Liz: 200 guests might as well be a million (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

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Whoa.
Photo: EMP Photography
Dear Liz, 

We're planning our wedding next April. My fiancee has a way bigger family than I do, and  her parents are kind of social. Her mom told me this week that we're going to have at least 200 guests, and my my fiancee also thinks that's no big deal. That's so many people, and it makes me uncomfortable. I know about maybe 40 people that I was going to invite, and I don't know if I've ever even been in the same room with 200 people. Her parents are helping us pay for it, but we're on our own figuring out how to do it. How do you manage a wedding with that many people??

Signed, 

Crowd gone wild

Dear Wild, 

Heh. Odds are that you have been in a  few rooms before with that many people in it, but you probably weren't hosting dinner for all of them! But, yeah, it's a lot of people - or at least it can certainly feel like it. almost 200 people you don't know, 200 meals, 20 tables, 20 centerpieces, 600 alcoholic drinks (yes, I'm serious), so, yeah, big day. You can certainly raise the case for a smaller list - start by saying " I really want/envisioned a smaller wedding, is there a way to compromise and cut that number in half/whatever number I feel better about?"  

If your fiancee and her Mom both see it as a given, then that might not work, though. If you want tips  on how to manage it, just do what I do and break it into tasks and pieces, instead of focusing so much on sharing a room with a bunch of strangers. I don't know how far you are into checking off your wedding tasks, but focus on what else needs to get done, and just keep moving through it. And, yes, I'm going to be slightly self-serving and recommend getting a planner, if you can.  If you are feeling overwhelmed now, it will certainly help, especially on the day of. 
Your wedding day itself isn't going to be as much of a feeding frenzy as you think, if that's any consolation. Lots of eyes, all on you, but you will and should be able to hang out with everyone that you personally know and love. As a matter of fact, make sure that you do.  It's a lot, but it's also one day. You've got everything you need to handle it. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding:
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com


Friday, October 16, 2015

Ask Liz: Nixing New In-Laws From the Guest List? (Los Angeles wedding planner)

This was originally posted on www.thebrokeassbride.com

The Politics of Filling This Table. MAN.
Photo: Ace Hotel DTLA by Liz Coopersmith


Dear Liz,

My fiance and I are planning a wedding with an extremely tight budget and agreed that we would limit our guests to immediate family to cut cost. My fiance’s family is relatively small and scattered around the country, so most of them probably wouldn’t be able to make it anyway. By inviting only parents, siblings, and grandparents, I get pretty much everyone I would want to see on my wedding day, minus my step-cousin’s screaming toddler. Sounds like a great plan, right?

Not as easy as it sounds. When my mom remarried I inherited a large, unruly mob of opinionated aunts, uncles, cousins, and one particularly pushy grandmother. A few of my cousins have already asked me about the wedding date and sound like they’re planning to attend. But, I’m not planning on inviting them. I’m a people pleaser and I dread having to turn them down…so far I’ve just been non-committal, but I know that can’t last.
Do you have any advice on a tactful way to let friends and extended family know that they won’t be getting an invite?
Signed,

Guilty Conscience

Hey Guilty,

Start with your mom. Tell her that because of your budget, you and your fiance are only inviting immediate family. Make it CLEAR that this includes her and her husband, but doesn’t include her new extended family. Be nice, but stay firm. She will, hopefully, spread the word. If one of your new cousins asks again, tell them the same thing, that the wedding has to be small, so you’re only inviting immediate family. Be gracious and kind, in the “We wish we could invite more people, but we can’t.” If they keep pushing, repeat it, until you can safely change the subject.

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Let's talk about your wedding:
Call/text 323-592-9318

Wednesday, October 14, 2015

Wedding Wise Wednesday - October 14 (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week

Martha Stewart Weddings - Madonna stops concert to help a couple get engaged. Jan and Chad got front row seats at the Rebel Tour concert stop in Edmonton Canada. Jan wanted to propose to Chad, and Madge made that happen in front of 17,000. The planner in me wants to figure out how you pull this off,  but in the meantime, take a look, it's pretty cool: 




Required Reading;

Photo: Liz Coopersmith
Huffington Post Weddings- The Myth of Wedding DIY. You might think that DIY is going to be easier, cheaper, and better than paying a vendor to do it. Maybe, but seriously, maybe not. Here's my take on it.



The Deals:

Photo: Original Runner Co. 
Original Runner Co.  - 50% off of their Fall leaves fabric runner, while supplies last...

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding:
liz@silvercharmevents.com
Call/text 323-592-9318

Friday, October 09, 2015

Ask Liz: Give The Groom His Thing? (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

It's okay. He gets it.
Photo: Think Geek


Many thanks to the Refine Facebook group  for their inspiration and help with this question. 

Dear Liz:

My daughter is getting married next month. I've been helping her plan the wedding for almost a year now, and it's going to be a beautiful, elegant celebration. We're very close with her fiance, he's quiet and reserved and a wonderful person, but he also likes superhero movies and video games. At my husband's birthday party last month, he told me that he wanted to do a special performance in the middle of the reception. He wants it to be a special surprise for my daughter, but he told me because he needs my help to keep it a secret until it happens. When he explained that it would involve Star Wars stormtrooper costumes and music,  I nodded but didn't really say anything. But he brought it up again this week, and I think he might be serious. I asked him how long he thinks the whole thing would take, and he and his friends would have to leave the reception for at least 45 minutes to get changed and ready, and then perform for 20 minutes. He can't just disappear for 45 minutes! It doesn't fit in with what we've planning for the night - their wedding is supposed to be a stylish, grand evening, and I'm afraid he's going to ruin it. How do I get him to change his mind?

Signed, 

Mortified MOB


Dear MM, 

Okay, full disclosure: I'm a little bit of a geek, so this actually sounds kind of cool to me! Plus, in my experience, guests love this stuff. Groomsmen rap battles, choreographed wedding party dances, skits, go over really, really well. Trust me,  people dig it. 
That being said, I know she's your kid, and you have this vision of what her day should be, but that's her guy. She knows him, and she knows what he's like. It'll be a surprise for her, but not really a surprise, you know what I mean? And, if he's been talking about it for a while now, odds are he's sure she'll be cool with it. Plus, it's his wedding, too, and he should have something that he wants in it. 

Don't make him stop, help him make it work. 

Because, you're right,  he definitely can't disappear for 45 minutes in the middle of the wedding. It will be noticed, to say the least! Honestly, he's got about 15 minutes before your daughter looks around and wonders where her new husband is, then asks if anyone knows where her new husband is, then sends someone out to go look for her new husband. After that, she's going to start looking for him herself, which turns it into a whole new thing. I'm guessing he thinks it will take 45 minutes because he has to go...somewhere else... to get to the costumes and change? He should talk to the reception venue about finding a closer room to do all that, so he can cut prep time to the 15-minute vague "He's probably in the bathroom" window. Ask him if he can trim the "show" time down by a few minutes, too. Explain to him that it's a cool reveal, but 20 minutes is the length of four Saturday Night Live sketches. Four. He wants to keep people happy that it's happening instead of hoping that it's going to end. And, bonus, the less time it takes up, the better you'll feel about it, too. Shorter is sweeter. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding:
Call/text 323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com


Thursday, October 08, 2015

Thursday Throwback: Let Your Wedding Crew Choose, Follow And Get Out of Your Way

Photo: Powell Pictures
Here's an article I wrote for The Broke Ass Bride earlier this year. Your wedding people will have many, many questions. Here's how to manage the answers. 

So, I’ve been checking in with my 2015 couples a lot this week. March’s backyard wedding was relocated to another backyard. May wants a photo booth.  I’m looking at venues with July #2 this weekend. June #1 is in way better shape than she thinks she is. And, actually, so are you. Remember that the next time you start to wonder.
What’s been interesting is that each of them asked about managing their wedding party. And managing their families. Or, rather, managing their wedding party and families’ questions and expectations.
There are just so many of them, you know? Wedding party and family members. And questions.
When is the bridal shower, where is the bachelorette party? Should all 10 of your family members wear the same color as your bridesmaids and/or groomsmen? When should everyone, or anyone, fly in for the wedding? And on and on.
Should you let them choose, or just tell them what to do?

Well, yeah, definitely one or the other.

But here’s the thing: It’s up to you, what they get to choose, and what you want to  dictate. And it doesn’t always have to be one or the other. Most of the time, wedding-wise, people want (cough, cough, NEED) direction. But if it’s something that’s not a big priority for you, it’s okay to let them make the choice.

But let them know one way or the other.  And if the answer is, “This is what we’re doing,” remember to smile and say “Thank you.” And if it’s “Whatever you want to do,” give them a deadline to let you know, well, what they’re going to do. Every choice needs to come with a deadline. Every mandate needs to come with gratitude and a smile. Got it? Now go forth and plan …

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding;
Call/text 323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, October 07, 2015

Wedding Wise Wednesday - October 7

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Wow. That Protea is beautiful. Umm...Kinda big, though?
Photo: Mi Belle Photographer
All this wedding's pics HERE.
I Thee Dread: Five Insane Things From Martha Stewart Weddings Magazine, Fall 2015. As long-time subscriber of the magazine, My love for Martha is strong. But if you're gonna plan a wedding, ya gotta laugh. You're welcome! 



The Events:
Sunday, October 11
11am - 3pm

Bridal Showplace
Knott's Berry Farm Resort Hotel
7675 Crescent Avenue
Buena Park, CA 90703

Admission: $7 online, $10 at the door

The Deals:
Photo: Groupon
Groupon - For you DIY You can Buy people, $29.99 for 70-ft of string lights. Hang them here there and everywhere, but don't forget the extension cords. 


Photo: Wedding Chicks
Wedding Chicks- For the next 24 hours, is offering 40% off your ENTIRE order, when you use code FLASH40 at checkout. Totes, t-shirts,  wedding party stuff. GO. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Schedule a wedding consultation:
liz@silvercharmevents.com
Call/text 323-592-9318




Tuesday, October 06, 2015

Why Your Wedding is Like A Day at Disneyland (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

Me and Baymax at The Park. So many ways to enjoy the day...
Photo: Mindy Marzec, Budget Fairy Tale

A little something I wrote for The Broke-Ass Bride, once upon a time.  Still relevant. Although the prices have definitely gone up...

I had a great weekend. For one thing, my bride Pam got married. Beautiful wedding. And the next day, I got to go to Disneyland. I have an annual passport, so I go whenever I can.  I love Disneyland for many reasons, not the least of which is the people-watching. I was strolling up Main Street, looking at everyone, checking out all the lines, and it occurred to me: going to Disneyland is a lot like planning a wedding.

Stay with me for a minute.
For starters, unlike me,  it’s not something that you do all the time – it’s a special event, an entirely different world, and unfamiliar territory. And it’s going to take a while to plan. Picking a weekend when everyone is available, Figuring out how much it’s going to cost – admission ($100+ per person), transportation (who’s driving? And parking is $17 per car), eating when you get there (starting at $30 per person), favors and decorations (Mickey ears and a t-shirt will run you another $50).

Disneyland is not cheap, plus there are  complications everywhere once you get into the park. What to do first? What if your first ride (COUGH vendor) choice is unavailable when you get there? I hit Star Tours, only to find a two and a half hour line. “Come back early tomorrow and grab a fastpass”, a friendly cast member told me. Hmm, not going to be here tomorrow.  Let’s try Thunder Mountain, instead. Of course, this can get frustrating – you have a limited amount of time until you have to go home, and your options seem to be dwindling. You've been there for 3 hours and you haven't been on anything yet! Be patient – You will finally get on a ride. It might take a while, but it’s going to happen.

I always say that Disneyland is the Happiest Place on Earth…but you can bring a designated pocket of unhappiness with you. The person that complains about everything: They’re too hot, they’re too cold, they don't like standing in line for so long. They don't like your plan, “Why are we going to It’s a Small World, this is stupid, I want to go on Pirates of the Caribbean instead. $5 for a corn dog? Why are you paying $5 for a corn dog?” Does this sound familiar? At some point, you know that small child (or your inner child)you're carrying is going to emotionally implode. Do what I’ve seen countless parents do and be kind, be firm, and keep moving.

It’s a lot of pressure. You're paying a lot of money to be there. It’s the Happiest Place on Earth, you should be having a fantastic time, right? So, why is this so hard? Well, weddings and Disneyland are also lot like life. Anything that’s worth it takes work, and sometimes that sucks. But perspective is a big part of the game. At the end of the aisle, and the end of the maze-like line to the spinning tea cups, is a fantastic time with the people you love. I never remember the lines, I only remember laughing hysterically with everyone over the dumbest stuff in the world. I remember my friend’s 4 year old nephew shrieking with happiness when he saw Mickey Mouse. And another friend who spent all day getting into the background of other people’s pictures, especially if I was the one that volunteered to take them. Happy Hour at the Grand Californian Hotel. And just having a great time. Recognize when you're having a great time along the way, okay? This, too, will happen.

And, yes, you can get alcohol at Disneyland. Just ask me where. 


See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Wanna talk about your wedding?
Call/text 323-692-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Saturday, October 03, 2015

Nicole and John 10/10/15: Seven Days Out (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

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So, yeah, I stopped doing the daily updates, because it was turning into, "...and then I made a phone call!" and no one wants to stick around for that. There are two things you need to know about wedding planning, if you need to know anything, is 1. It takes patience, and 2. Everyone in Wedding World is busy." For instance, their caterer just now texted me to say that he is going to send me their final invoice just as soon as he finishes meeting with his head chef about the wedding they're doing this evening.  Her hair and makeup stylist called me last night. from her car, to also apologize for not sending me Nicole's final invoice, yet, because she'd been working all day, was packing for another gig to San Diego this morning, but what send it to me when she got home. It's cool, because she already sent it to Nicole. Patience. It's a week out, but it will all get done. In the meantime, things have been busy...

Los Angeles Wedding
Nicole and John are getting married on the steps
of Hale House. 
First of all, yes, Nicole is officially back in the States! I met her face to face for the first time at David's Bridal on Sunday, and we went to Heritage Square on Monday for a walkthrough. 

Kim Williams and Nicole, looking at  her
Pinterest board 
Tuesday was our consultation with Kim at Enchanted Florist. Usually, this is the meeting where we see a sample, but what with the being 5,000 miles away and everything, I thought it was a good idea to sit down and finalize the colors and flowers Nicole wanted to stick to. It was important to her to make sure that it all worked together, plus she wanted to incorporate John's family tartan in there, too. Kim did her usual thing where she  recommends certain flowers to complete a look, brings in flowers from the cooler, and is very clear on how much stuff costs and very flexible on what she can do. She's good. Nicole is bringing John back to Kim on Monday to see a centerpiece sample and lock everything down. Stand by for pictures!

Something a little like this, I think.
Except...redder?
Photo: Wedding Party App
This week is all about making final choices and wrapping up loose items. Oh, and making sure everyone gets paid. Everyone has the timeline, so they know when and where. On Wednesday, she met with her DJ. On Thursday, she picked John up from the airport, and hit BevMo. On Friday, I called the Ice delivery company to move up their delivery time to match BevMo's delivery time. Nicole and John went to Disneyland, because that's what you do when you're coming from Scotland. For her, the whirlwind continues this weekend with a bachelorette party/Bridal shower combo, while I figure out if I'm going to meet the DJ at Heritage tomorrow, or if time and travel considerations will mean that he is just going to have to trust me. I'm betting on "trust."

More to come...

Sharlyn + Demontray, 10/2/10
Photo: SDK Photo Studio
In the meantime, help me wish a Happy Fifth Anniversary to Sharlyn and Demontray! On October 2, 2010, I coordinated their wedding at Rancho Palos Verdes. The ceremony was at Wayfarer's Chapel, and the reception was at Terranea. It was a great, fun day and a thrill to be a part of. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

Let's talk about your wedding:
Call/text 323-592-9318







Friday, October 02, 2015

Ask Liz: Is the $10,000 Wedding a Myth?

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Edgewater room, Marina Del Rey Hotel.  Photo: Liz Coopersmith
Dear Liz:

We're getting married next April in Los Angeles. We're mostly paying for it ourselves, but I'm getting worried. I'd love to only spend $10,000, but the two venues we've looked at so far cost more than that to rent, not even including food! This dress I love is $3,000, so those two things would completely blow my budget right there. My best friend got married last month, and her photographer charged her $5,000. This is starting to get ridiculous. I see all these blogs and Pinterest boards about how to pull off a $10,000 wedding, but I don't see how that's possible, unless you're serving grocery store cake and carrying lawn daisies. Honestly, are $10, 000 weddings some B.S. urban legend?

Signed, 

Myth-ing Pieces

Dear Pieces, 

Okay, so the first thing I'm going to say, just so no one freaks out right away is NO, the $10,000 wedding is not a myth.  Repeat: NOT a myth. It is, however, a challenge. Well, two challenges actually. The first is accepting what a $10,000 wedding is going look like, and managing your expectations. The second is finding what you need to stay behind that line. The first challenge is the hardest - setting your expectations always is. And no, I'm not telling you to keep those expectations low, but you'll definitely need to tweak them. You can have a beautiful wedding, but make it a small one. Most of the $10k weddings t that I've ever coordinated or officiated, have had less than 50 guests, and that includes my own wedding. Less guests mean less expense - every person is 2-3 drinks, an appetizer, an entree and a piece of cake. 10 guests is a table, ten chairs, and a centerpiece, all of which you're paying for. Keep your list to close friends and family, the people you feel absolutely have to be there, all 35 of them. :-)

You can have a gorgeous wedding, but it's not going to be in a huge art deco ballroom or a breathy rustic venue. Your venue and your catering combined shouldn't be more than $5,000. Think restaurant banquet room with a view (you live in L.A., and there are even some beach options).  A short guest list opens your budget up to cooler boutique hotels, like the one above that overlooks the Marina, and at least a couple that I know of in Downtown. A  pretty park or garden where you can bring in your catering. Every city and  has places like this, really.  Find a venue that needs minimum decoration and minimum DIY. If there is anything that is going to cost you more than you think, it's DIY. Staffing and rentals can also add a couple of thousand bucks to your costs, so watch out for that. You can find a beautiful dress that's less expensive. Hint: Wedding gowns go on sale in December.  The $5,000 photographer is out, but there are many brilliant photographers. I won't fit in your budget, either, but though it pains me to say it, someone else can give you the help you need.  The $5 per stem peonies are out, but that's not the last word on pretty flowers. The ombre wedding cake is out, even with your tiny guest list, but you can serve delicious cake, anyway. Bottom line: Start small and pretty before you  even think about going large and opulent. And keep looking and asking questions until you find stuff you love. 

Look, the average cost of a wedding in the U.S. is around $25,000. You heard me. In Los Angeles that goes up to $35,000+, which is where my couples generally start at. You don't even want to know what it is in New York! Everyone has a price point they don't want to go past, though, so you're not alone.  Believe it: You can have a wonderful $10,000 wedding. It's both realistic AND possible...if you stay realistic and open to all the possibilities.  


See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Let's talk about your wedding:
liz@silvercharmevents.com
Call/text 323-592-9318





Wednesday, September 30, 2015

Wedding Wise Wednesday - September 30 (Los Angeles Wedding Planner)

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Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:


Photo: Delia D. Blackburn
Martha Stewart Weddings - Dad Includes Stepdad in Walk Down the Aisle. Once again proving that people are awesome way more than they suck. Dad Todd Buchanan paused with his daughter Brittany at the bottom of the aisle to go up and grab her stepfather, so they could both walk her down the aisle. Click through for the whole story with pictures. You're welcome. 

Required reading: 

Brides.com - The Complete Wedding Day Survival Guide for Introverts. It's a lot of pressure for the non-shy. 


The Events:
Sunday, October 4
10:00am - 4:00pm
Pasadena Convention Center
250 E. Green Street
Pasadena, CA 91101
Tickets: $12 at the door, $10 when you RSVP online. I think I'm going to go hang out at this one. Let me know if you want to come with.

Photo: Premier Bridal Shows
Sunday, October 4
11:00am- 3:00pm
Premier Bridal Shows
Penthouse Ballroom Boutique Bridal Show
Le Meridien Delfina Santa Monica
530 Pico Blvd.
Santa Monica, CA 90405

Tickets:

The Deals

Amazon Local Deals - Sterling Photo Booth: $499 for a 4-hour rental, with unlimited prints. Also includes a flash drive with all the pictures and a free online gallery. GO.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Contact me for a wedding consultation:
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com
Call/text 323-592-9318