Wednesday, September 24, 2014

Wedding Wise Wednesday - September 24

Every week, I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

100 personalized, customized wine glasses - the ultimate wedding favor. LOVE. Rachel Carl is one of my favorite calligraphers.  I've worked with her a few times, and she has a fantastic Etsy shop, where you can order and buy stuff like this. Which I love. Did I mention that? Follow her on instagram @rachelcarlco

The Events:

Sunday, September 28
10:00am - 4:00pm

BrideWorld Expo
Pasadena Convention Center
300 E. Green Street
Pasadena, CA 91101
Admission: $10 online, $12 at the door

The Deals:

ModCloth is having a 20% sale on their "Most-Loved" styles, and I've gotta say that I certainly love a lot of them. Need bridesmaid dresses? A rehearsal dinner dress? Something awesome to wear, 'cause it's Wednesday? GO.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com


Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Ask Liz: MOHs Gone Wild and Gift Gathering Vessels

Courtesy of BHLDN
Never had a question from a wedding guest before...


Dear Liz:

One of my college friends is getting married in a few weeks, and I'm having some issues with a mutual friend of hers, the Maid of Honor. The MOH has been helping her a lot with the wedding planning over the past few months, too. The bridal shower is this upcoming weekend, and I told MOH that I was going to be out of town for a couple of days, and my cell phone was going to be turned off for most of that time. But I did tell her that I was going to the shower, and I would happily contribute to the party, and I was all set. But, when I did turn my phone on, she'd left several horrible messages on my voicemail demanding that I call her back, demanding that I show up and help pay for the shower, even though I'd already said that I would, one message telling me that I was privileged to even be invited to the wedding, "since there were a lot more people who she should have invited," instead of me. Needless to say, I was pretty hurt by this, and I haven't called her back, yet. I don't want to talk to her, and now I'm not sure I should even go to the shower or the wedding. I haven't heard anything from the Bride, just the MOH. What should I do?

Signed,

Bruised and Bewildered,

Dear Bruised,

Wow. I'm so sorry this happened to you, but it is a truth universally recognized that weddings make people do the wacky. I will say that the MOH is probably feeling lots and lots of pressure to make this a great experience for her friend, and that can be, umm, emotionally challenging sometimes. But that's no excuse for her behavior. I don't know if she forgot you told her your phone would be off or didn't believe you, or forgot you were leaving, but thats just wrong. The bride should have invited other people? NO. That's beyond rude, and completely uncalled for. Someone needs to take a deep breath and calm down. As I told one of my interns this summer, we're planning a party, not re-invading Baghdad.

What you have to remember, though, is that this wedding is about her, it's about your friend, The Bride. She wants you at her wedding, or else she wouldn't have invited you. I'm assuming she had some control over the shower guest list, too. You said you'd be there, so you should be there. Just like you said you would. And when you get there, focus on The Bride, and focus on having fun with the Bride, and making sure she has a good time. As far as the MOH, I wouldn't make the first move. If she does confront you, just confirm that you told her what your deal was this week, and that you were unavailable to return her messages. If you do decide to call her on the voicemails, be aware that you both will probably still be in Emotionally Challenged Zone (ECZ, tm Liz) and that conversation might not go the way you want it to. But this wedding, this shower, this week is not about the MOH, it's about you and The Bride. Good luck.



Dear Liz,

 I was wondering if you knew anyone who used an actual mailbox as their card box. I thought of the idea and loved it and when I looked on Pinterest it looked like I wasn't the first one, but my fiancĂ© thinks the big cards will cause a problem and not all of our guests will be able to fit their cards in there. (We are inviting 166 guests) thanks for any help!

Signed,

Card Stocked

Dear Stocked,

I've definitely seen mailboxes work as gift card boxes, and it's a great idea. First of all, obviously, get a big one! Put it on a table that has plenty of room around the box.  Guests can put larger cards and gifts next to it or around it, and you're good to go. Here's a link on Pinterest if you're looking for different decorating options.

What do you think of my advice? Do you have any to add? Let me know in the comments below.
And if you have a wedding related question of your own, email me at liz@silvercharmevents.com.


See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com



Saturday, September 20, 2014

Wedding Wise Weekly - September 20, 2014

Every week, I bring you the best wedding stories, events in deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Weekly. Welcome!


Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Ooh, Cake/Not Cake! My favorite Georgia wedding planner and craft master Natalie Bradley posted this on her pinterest page a couple of days ago, via Brooklyn Bride.
I would like this in front of me now, Thank You.  
Cool, Too:
From Bridget and Steve's Intimate, Beautiful Palm Springs Wedding.
Credit: 
EPLove
Broke-Ass Bride just published my first article with them this year, "The High Cost of Wedding Fear." There is so much pressure associated with planning your wedding, and sometimes you let it get in your way. 

And no, I'm not talking to just one or two of you, I'm talking to all of you. Find out how to stop being afraid of your wedding, guys. 

The Events: 

Sunday, September 21
11:00am - 3:00pm
Sheraton Cerritos
 12725 Center Court Drive
 Cerritos, CA 90703
$10 at the door, use coupon code WW4 for up to 4 free tickets

11:00am - 3:00pm
Westin Hotel Long Beach
333 Ocean Blvd.
Long Beach, CA 90802
$7 in advance, $10 at the door

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Friday, September 12, 2014

Happy Anniversary, Mr. and Mrs. Kennedy!

Jackie + Jack, 9/12/53
Today would have been John and Jacqueline Kennedy's 61st wedding anniversary. I love her dress. In fact, I love her dress so much that it was on my bucket list to go and see it at the John F. Kennedy library in Boston someday. Someday turned out to be yesterday, actually...but it was out of exhibit for restoration. Sigh.
Next time, baby.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, September 10, 2014

Wedding Wise Wednesday - September 10

Every week I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Photo: Martha Stewart Weddings
Martha Stewart Weddings: A Diary of the Making of a Wedding Dress - Behind-The Seams with Carolina Herrera. It took 20 people over 120 hours to create this dress for Herrera's Spring 2015 collection. Wanna find out how?

The Events: 

Sunday, September 14
10am - 4pm

Bride World Expo - South Bay
Crowne Plaza Hotel & Resort | map
300 N Harbor Dr
Redondo Beach, CA 90277
Admission:$10 if you register online, $12 at the door

11:00am - 4:00pm
Shandin Hills Golf Club
3380 Little Mountain Drive - San Bernadino, CA
Los Angeles, CA 90210
Live music. Wedding DIY. Stuff to gawk at, stuff to buy. Sounds like fun. GO.

The Deals:


Living Social: A new monogram pendant to go  with your...new monogram? $39 and free shipping. 

See you at the end of the aisle, 

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318



Ask Liz: The Fine Art of Guest Management

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Dear Liz:

We're getting married in November, and more than half of our guests, and most of the wedding party are from out of town. I want to be accommodating, but how much is too much? I definitely want to provide a shuttle service from the hotel, but what else can I do to make sure they have a great time?

Signed, 

Out of Towner Tormented

Dear Tormented,

Wedding guest management all comes down to managing guest expectations. So, what do guests expect? They expect to be told exactly where to go, when to get there, and to not be inconvenienced when they arrive, or on the way. Everything else is cake icing.

That sounds pretty stringent, but it isn't really. For instance, the shuttle is a nice perk - it's not necessary, but it's a really nice thing to do. But, make sure you let them know about it - when it leaves the hotel, when it's going to return. If they decide to drive, let them know if they have to pay for parking at the venue...and where the parking lot is. Aim to send them that information at least 3 times before the wedding, whether it's in the invitation (if you know it then), on your wedding website, or at the hotel when they get there. This is also why I recommend having everyone's email addresses handy. Or, depending on your crowd, their cell phone numbers.

Make sure that your venue is ready for your guests when they show up. That generally starts 30 minutes before the ceremony time. So, 30 minutes before, there should be chairs for them to sit in, and a space for them to wait. Figure out where the bathrooms are, and make sure that whoever is going to be standing around to greet people (your parents, your planner, the DJ) can direct them there.
Guests expect food and refreshments at cocktail hour. A lot of couples - especially ones with lower budgets - get hooked up on this. Do you have to have a full bar? Do you have to have passed appetizers? No. You can have a table with cheese, crackers and fruit on it, you can have wine or beer, or no alcoholic drinks at all. But you should have something, and signage helps.

Guests expect to be able to find their seats easily. I'm not a big fan of open seating, because it can cause confusion (everyone usually gets a table number, right?) or make people uncomfortable (for instance, if the only two seats that are available are next to the woman who was your husband's last girlfriend before you - you get the picture). And, no, you don't have to assign them a specific seat. Tell them where they are going, as easily as possible, and that means escort cards or table charts by last name or first name, NOT by table number. Don't make them look through all the tables to try and find out where they are sitting.

Other nice touches:
A water and lemonade station before the wedding. Especially if it's outdoors and in the summer time. No fainting from the heat! Rent or buy dispensers, fill them up with water and lemonade yourself, even. Get as least two times as many cups as you have guests.

Cake boxes. There is almost always cake left over. Guests are either full by the time the cake is cut or they are on the dance floor. Ask your bakery for little-to-go boxes and set a couple on each table. Extra points if you have your DJ point them out. Wedding cake makes an excellent breakfast meal, and you can tell everyone I said so.

And finally, as far as having fun - your guests will have a good time if you're having a good time. They will follow your lead. So, get out on the dance floor. Get into the photo booth. Take a few minutes to stop by every table and thank everyone for coming. Play your favorite music. Eat your favorite food. Enjoy yourself, and your guests will, too.



Confidential to Rodeo Drive - You don't need to be a U.S. citizen to get married in California, but you DO have to present a valid and current Passport or photo I.D. when you get your marriage license. And the two of you do have to go get that together.

Got a wedding question for me? Email me and let me know what's up!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com