Tuesday, August 19, 2014

The Three Lies You're Telling Yourself About Your Wedding

1. I'm not going to do this right.
It can be a paralyzing thought, but it's not true. First of all, there really is no "right" when it comes to planning your wedding. "Right" is whatever you want your wedding look and feel like. That's the goal, and that's what you should focus on. You can only do the best you can do, and use the resources you have - your vendors, Google, other wedding planning websites. Don't be afraid or embarrassed to ask all and any questions you want to.  And here's a tip: After you ask your question, ask another one: "Is there anything else I need to know?"  Again: You're going to do the best you can. That's all any of us can do.

2. I don't have enough money to create the wedding I want.
No matter how big your wedding budget is,  there never seems to be enough, and there is always the concern that you're going to go over it. And once the wedding goodies start dancing in front of your eyes, that can start to hurt bad. And, time-wise, it can get frustrating and overwhelming trying to arrange your life around the multitude of phone calls, appointments and emails that line your way to the end of the aisle. But saying and thinking that you don't have enough of either? No.
Be honest: If you only want, or can only spend a certain amount of money on your wedding, than a wedding that goes over that is not the wedding you want. Sure, there may be a bride online whose bouquet cost the entirety of your wedding budget, but that's not the wedding you want. You need to stop thinking that just because you don't have her bank account, your wedding is going to suck in comparison. And you're going to ruin your whole day and the days leading up to it by concentrating on that.

My favorite quote ever, and my personal mantra, is by Theodore Roosevelt: "Do what you can with what you have, where you are." Switch from "I don't have enough money," to "What can I do with the money I have?" Perhaps the Ritz in Downtown L.A. isn't possible, but the Doubletree Hotel's Japanese Garden is. Be honest about your budget with every vendor and ask what they can do with it, if anything. Roses and orchids aren't the only beautiful flowers in the world. You have so many options, you just have to be open to finding them.

3. I don't have enough time to plan the wedding I want. Okay, full disclosure: I'm the girl who can plan weddings in six months or less (latest coup - finding a videographer in two days), but really, managing your time really means managing your timing. If you contact a vendor on the weekend, they are probably working and won't be able to get back to you until the following Monday or Tuesday. Giving them your schedule to meet and asking for theirs right off the bat will save you some time. But, put the thought that all the good vendors, the ones that you want, are going to be gone before you can get to them. As I said, you have soooo many options. You may get tired of looking(in which case, take a break), but that's not the same as not having choices. And you have plenty of time. Even if you have a week, even if you have two weeks, even if you have a month, you're good. Fit it in where you can - the key to managing your wedding planning time is to not give yourself a hard time. So, knock it off.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events

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