Friday, March 30, 2012

Couples in Conflict: It's not Just Budgets and Family Anymore

Taken from my article on The Broke Ass Bride Today:

Good news: More grooms are getting involved in planning their wedding.

The Challenge: This also means grooms have their own ideas about what their wedding should look like, which can be completely different from their brides’.

Things used to be simple. He says you’re spending too much, you counter by pointing out that his sister hates you, and you still manage to get down the aisle, more or less in one piece. With the open bar that you both insisted on. I’m kidding, of course, but just enough to make a point.

Now, it’s all about the details. Instead of caring about one thing in your wedding, he cares about all of it. He’s particular about the wine choices, and he’s got an aversion to the color yellow that’s going to interfere with your vision of guest tables festooned with sunflowers. As a wedding planner, I’ve witnessed epic fights over invitation layouts – fold or no fold? – that have left both parties silently raging on either side of the table. Not good.

This has happened a lot more since the last time I wrote about this. And many of my brides are completely blindsided by it. They wanted him to care about the wedding, but if they were honest, they didn’t really think he’d be this, well, engaged, in the decision process. But he is. And, really, it’s his wedding, too, so there’s no reason why he shouldn’t be.

Planning your wedding will teach you a lot about yourself, and a lot about each other and how you work together. Good wedding management equals good relationship management, too.

So, get on the same page now. Take a couple of hours, over lunch, over dinner, over a long walk, and brain dump...

Read the rest of the post by clicking here.

It's all about having the wedding you want. If you're starting to stressed and overwhelmed about how that's going to happen, schedule a meeting with me this weekend. Call me at 323-592-9318, or email liz@silvercharmevents.com to get started.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Thursday, March 29, 2012

My Post on Bride Rush.com - How To Find An Out-Of-The Box Venue

Read The Full Article on BrideRush.com

Before Zane and I got married, the only weddings either of us had been to were in churches or hotels. Still, we had our ceremony and reception in a beautiful art deco hotel in Hollywood, which happened to be down the street from our apartment. It would never have occurred to me to do anything else. We just didn’t think inside the box. In fact, in the five short months we had to plan, we never truly realized there was a “box” to begin with.

As a wedding planner, this continues to ring true. Most of the couples I’ve worked with haven’t gone the traditional route. They want that “wow” factor and a venue whose personality matches their own. Art galleries are in. Or how about a converted warehouse? Or a train station? Couples want a venue with less rules or more rules they can live with, whatever gives them better control over what their wedding day is going to look and feel like.

But, when you don’t have a lot of time to plan, how do you find a fun, unique wedding venue that’s perfect for the two of you? Start with what you know.

1. What’s your favorite place? Meg and John got married at the restaurant where they celebrate their birthday together every year. I performed a wedding ceremony at the Griffith Observatory, where Jane and Mike had their first date and where Mike proposed a year later. Celia and Dan found an outdoor auditorium on the edge of the park where he plays soccer every week. Your favorite bar, your favorite museum, your favorite hiking trail —where do you hang out?

2. What’s around you? Like I said, we got married about a mile from our apartment. I could have walked there for the wedding. The next time you’re driving from point A to point B, look around....

Read the rest and let me know what you think in the comments!

If you would like to talk about creating your own beautiful, out-of-the-box wedding, email me at liz@silvercharmevents.com, or call me office at 323-592-9318 to schedule your complimentary consultation. Just let me know what you need. :-)

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Wedding Wise Wednesday - March 28

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week: The DIY Chandelier I found on Pinterest. Two strings of lights around a painted hula hoop. Hang it where you will, and bring the pretty. I might even try it tonight.


The Events:


Saturday, March 31st
12:00 - 4:00pm
Great Bridal Expo
Radisson Los Angeles Hotel
6225 W Century Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90045
Admission: $8 online or $10 at the door

Sunday, April 1

11:00am - 3:00pm
Beverly Canon Gardens
Beverly Hills, CA 90210
Price: $30 in advance, $40 on-site
It's fantabulous wedding event season!
This one is outdoors and beautiful, so enjoy.

Millennium Biltmore Hotel
506 S. Grand Ave
Los Angeles, CA 90071
Price: $7 plus one free guest

The Deals:

Groupon is taking Wedding Wednesday by Storm - check out their page of incredible wedding wedding deals. 50% off jewelry from Blue Nile. Wedding photography. Food tastings. Honeymoons. GO!


Wedding Channel - $550 for a three-hour photobooth rental, from Spotlight Parties.


Enjoy, and I'll see you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318












Deals:
Groupon just released a slew of Wedding Discounts this morning, in

Friday, March 23, 2012

Three Assumptions YOU'RE Making About Your Weddding

A while back, I wrote Three Assumptions They’re Making About Your Wedding, a list of what people really won’t stop bugging you about, ever. But I’ve talked to a lot of couples in the past few weeks, and I’m starting to realize that you’re making a lot of assumptions about your wedding too:

1. That the minute you step into Wedding World, everyone is trying to rip you off. This one drives me a little nuts, as you can imagine. Wedding World can get expensive, but a lot of that is because you’re buying in bulk – One $40 centerpiece is going to cost less than 10. 100 meals at $50+ a person is going to cost more than one. You’ve heard it a million times, and I’ve heard it a bunch recently: “Once you put the word “wedding” in front of something, it doubles the price.” It’s even considered a money-saving strategy to lie about the event you’re planning, in order to get a lower quote. First of all, that never works, eventually they figure it out, and second of all? It makes you look like a jerk. Another reason is that weddings do require a little more effort than your average party. If you think about the combination of logistics and meeting expectations, it’s a lot of work to give you the wedding experience you want. Some of us charge more for that than others, true. But just because you can’t afford it, doesn’t mean it’s a scam – you just can’t afford it. It’s like the Christian Louboutins I keep stalking at Nordstroms. Love them, cannot afford them, so I’ll have to stick to Nine West at Macy’s for now. And like sticking to your budget, I don’t mind that much, because Nine West shoes are comfortable. Bottom line – you do not have to hire me/that photographer/that venue if the price is uncomfortable for you. Instead, figure out what you can get with what you can afford.

2. That you have to do things the way they’ve “always” been done “traditionally.”

Read the rest of the article here

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318

Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Wedding Wise Wednesday - March 21, 2012

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week -The Knot's list of

5 Crazy Fun Kitchen Gadgets for Your Wedding Registry, like these onion goggles, which save your eyeballs from the sting! I think I'm going to get my sister-in-law the pie crust map, too. Definitely getting it for somebody.


Cool, too: Look what I found at Wedding Salon on Monday! This chocolate bar Invitation, by Cake and Art. Isn't this awesome? Simple and yummy.

The Events:

Thursday, March 22

6:30 PM - 9:00 PM

Macy's Sip & Scan™
Macy's Pasadena, 1st Floor
401 South Lake Ave.
Pasadena, CA 91101
Drinks, Appetizers and a price gun. What else do you need, really?

Sunday, March 25th

Festival of Brides

11:00am - 4:00pm
1250 Capri Drive
Pacific Palisades, Ca 90272

There is a promise of chocolate covered waffles. As long as I can get home before the premiere of Mad Men, I do believe I will be there.
$10 online/$25 at the door

Los Verdes Golf Course
7000 W. Los Verdes Drive
Rancho Palos Verdes, CA 90275
$7.00 at the door / $5.00 online

2441 Vellano Club Dr
Chino Hills, CA 91709
Free Admission

Bridal Faire Extraordinaire

11:00am - 3:00pm
University Club of Pasadena
175 North Oakland Ave
Pasadena, CA 91101

The Deals:

Wedding Channel - $35 for 20 Chalkboard Heart Centerpiece Table Markers. But you have to act fast - this deal is over at 5pm today. A hemp tie comes with each marker. What could you do with this?

Wedding Chicks is discounting their mini-totes to $10. And check out their free printables, too.

L.A. Photo Party is offering 10% off if you book any of their services this month. That includes their photosphere 360 booth, too. You've got 10 days. GO. And thanks to the Broke Ass Brigade Newsletter for the find.


Wedding planning: What do you need right now? Schedule a complimentary consultation with me this week,and together we'll figure out how to get you the wedding you want. Just email liz@silvercharmevents.com or call my office at 323-592-9318 to get started.

See you at the end of the aisle,


Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com

Thursday, March 15, 2012

Pinterest Friday - March 16

Only one more day to pay what you can for wedding planning...email liz@silvercharmevents.com and let me know what you need and what you've got...






See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318

Wednesday, March 14, 2012

Wedding Wise Wednesday - March 14

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

My offer this week is the coolest - Pay What You Can for wedding planning. nicole and mike How much would you pay to get the help you need? 5% of your wedding budget? 10%? What can you get for either of those? You'd be surprised. I've certainly been surprised by the number of emails I got about this yesterday! What are you waiting for? Email me at liz@silvercharmevents.com with your wedding date and your ideal price point, and find out. The deadline is Friday, March 16th, so go!

Cool, too: Appy Couple, a new service that lets you create your own private mobile wedding app to share with your guests. Event info and mapping, RSVP'ing right in the app, real-time picture uploads, and more. And for a limited time, you can get yours for free. Just click on the link to get started. Thanks to Recycled Bride for the find.

The Events:

Saturday, March 17
5:30pm
Hosted By: Arena Bridal Events
Staples Center
1111 South Figueroa Street
Los Angeles, CA 90015
Price: $10
This one is pretty cool - A bridal show on the Staples Center patio, followed by a Kings game, and enjoy a bridal show on the Staples , and then take your guy to a Kings game. Your admission covers both. I KNOW, right? I'm going to try and hit this one myself. Enjoy.


Sunday, March 18
11:00 AM - 3:00 PM
Skylinks at Long Beach
4800 East Wardlow Road
Long Beach, CA 90808
Price: FREE

Monday, March 19
4:00 PM - 8:00 PM
The SLS Beverly Hills
465 South La Cienega Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90048

Gorgeous show, do NOT worry about dinner after this one, because you're taken. I'll be wandering around, as I do. Don't miss out on this one.
Price: Okay, these are usually $50 for 2, but since they love me, engaged couples can get FREE tickets if you use the code CWDC when you buy them online. I will see you there!

The Deals:

Giving you guys deals on dresses always make me so happy, and there are three great ones this week.
David's Bridal is in the middle of their March Madness Sale - Every bridal gown is $50 - 300 off, and a pretty big selection of those are $99.

Nordstroms is having a sale on Bridesmaid dresses this week. This beauty is only $79.00 (with pockets!). Thanks to Bronze Budget Bride (@minibudgetbride) for the find.

Your Mom needs to look awesome, too. Lili Bridals in Tarzana is holding their Mother of the Bride and Groom dress trunk show from Thursday to Saturday this week, and you get 10% off any order. Call for your appointment 818-774-9700.




Disney Bride Jessica is offering 20% off her Etsy Store if you like it on Facebook. Bride t-shirts in Disney font? I'm all over it. Thanks to @BudgetFairyTale for the find.

So, email me with your wedding date and drop dead amount for wedding planning, and I'll let you know how I can help - liz@silvercharmevents.com or call me at 323-592-9318. Seriously, how much would you pay for a little more peace of mind?

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318


Tuesday, March 13, 2012

Good Luck - Pay What You Can For Wedding Planning Until St. Pat's Day

Here's the thing with me - I love to help couples plan their weddings. I love to show them how to create a beautiful day, and help them manage all the details that are involved in getting to that. Anything that I can do to get them the weddings they want.
Everyone needs a little bit of help - you have never done this before, and learning as you go is getting stressful and taking up a lot of time. But you're pretty sure that you can't afford a wedding planner. But, how much can you afford to spend?

St. Patrick's day is Saturday, and this is definitely your lucky week. nicole and mike How much could you afford? 5% of your wedding budget? 10%? What can you get for either of those? You'd be surprised.

Email me at liz@silvercharmevents.com with your wedding date, your budget and the percentage of that you're willing to spend to hire me. I'll let you know how I can tweak my services to fit that amount. If you're willing to do more work yourself, or have me a do less for you... on-site coordination may be within your reach.

BUT you only have until 8pm on Friday, 3/16 to take advantage of this offer. So, email me, already. You have nothing to lose, except the frown lines on your forehead. GO.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
323-592-9318

Friday, March 09, 2012

The Broke Ass Bride - The Hotel Question

The big question I've always found with hotels is deciding whether to get your guests closer to the venue or closer to you. One of things you should consider is what your guests are going to be doing that week. Blocked had family that were going to be staying for a while before the wedding. I'm working with a couple right now who not only have a lot of people coming from out of town, but they're going to try and get the bridal shower in the week before the wedding, too. Given what you know, and where you live, and where your venue is, where is it easier to book your hotel?

Where are you booking yours? Let me know in the comments below. And remember, I'm going to be in my West Hollywood office on Saturday, and in Pasadena on Sunday, so let me know if you would like to talk to me about how to get the wedding you want. I can't wait to find out how I can help!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318

Thursday, March 08, 2012

Pinterest Thursday

I've recently become obsessed with Pinterest. OBSESSED. Like I needed to find another way to not get stuff done. So, in my quest to blog five days a week, I've added Pinterest Thursday to the rotatation, and list of my popular re-pins for the week:

30 re-pins: My article on Wedding Aces, On Your Wedding Day, Time Is Everything

25 re-pins: The Marry Me Cup I found on Preston Bailey's website.



7 re-pins: Drea-mee...

4 re-pins each:
Ooh, Queeny!


Classic Christian Louboutin. Sigh.

Follow me at www.pinterest.com/lizcharm to see what else I come up with during the week. Two words: A Lot.

Oh, and I'm scheduling consultations for this weekend if you would like to talk about your wedding. What advice do you need to know right now? Right now, I'm open Saturday after 2pm, and Sunday after 4pm. My office is in West Hollywood, so just let me know what works for you.

See you at the End of the Aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
liz@silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318

Wednesday, March 07, 2012

Wedding Wise Wednesday - March 7

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and from around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing Of The Week:
April Rocha met Ashley at A Soolip Wedding 2011, and hired her to shoot her wedding. I just thought it was so awesome that she came by to hang out and help on Sunday, too. I love this shot of her and April next to her wedding portrait. Wedding meta!




The Events:


Thursday, March 8
6:00 PM - 9:00 PM
Open House/Vendor Meet and Greet
628 Alamitos Ave
Long Beach, CA 90802
Tour one of Long Beach's premiere wedding venues and meet with many of their recommended vendors. I've been on the edge of coordinating a wedding there for a couple of years now, so I'm going to try and go to this one. Let me know if you want to check it out. Its $5 for me, but free for you, so think about it.


Friday, March 10 (12:00 - 6:00pm) & Saturday, March 11 (10:00am - 5:00pm)
Kenneth Pool Trunk Show
Lovella Bridal
3325 N. Verdugo Rd.
Glendale, CA 91208
Shop one-on-one with a Kenneth Pool Stylist to pick out your dream wedding gown. Special discounts are available if you purchase during this event. Call to make your appointment, 818-248-0026






Sunday, March 11, 2012
Festival of Brides
11am – 4pm

The Langham Huntington Pasadena
1401 South Oak Knoll Avenue,
Pasadena, CA 91106

Another gorgeous show, and the one I'm going to. Tickets are normally $15 each, but click here for free admission for the two of you, plus two more guests.

10:00 AM - 4:00 PM
Pasadena Convention Center
300 E Green Street
Pasadena, CA 91101
Price: $10 per person or complimentary with weddingwire group pass.

The Deals:

Cake Divas was responsible for at least two pieces of cake that I ate at Soolip Wedding on Sunday. They are extending their show deal to my readers - 15% off any wedding cake. Just mention Soolip or me when you call to make your appointment, 310-248-2253.


Kate Spade Sample Sale - ENDS TONIGHT AT 11:59pm!!! Up 75% off some of their cutest handbags, clothes and accessories. This bag was originally $450, and is now $189. Seriously, why are you still here?


The Knot Shop's sale this week is on Lanterns and other wedding decorations. These? Are 99 cents each. The Knot has also gotten into group buying with Wedding Channel Deals. Great prices on wedding photographers and photo booths over there, now, so check it out.



I'm scheduling bride consulations for the rest of this week and weekend - I'd love to talk to you about any wedding planning challenges you're having right now. Maybe over cake at the Langham? It's a thought...email me or give me a call and we'll set it up.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Tuesday, March 06, 2012

A Soolip Wedding Review

A Personal Note From Liz
April's booth















On Sunday, I helped my friend, photographer April Rocha, set up and manage her photography booth at A Soolip Wedding. I love that show, everything is gorgeous, it's at the Bel Air Club which overlooks the Pacific Ocean. There really is nothing like being able to pick out Catalina in the distance to brighten up your day. The weather was perfect, the venue was beautiful, and the food was plentiful. I enjoyed, in a four period:
- Four gigantic chocolate covered strawberries
- Three pieces of cake
-A (strong) mojito in a cute little mason jar, and two glasses of champagne.
- Fried mac and cheese balls
- Assorted chocolates
- 3- 4 trips to the gargantuan table of cheese and crackers in the middle of the show floor
- And for lunch, a sauteed chicken breast and salad.
- And I'm pretty sure there are a couple of bags from the candy buffet table that I don't want to admit to eating!

Pigged OUT, I tell you! Here's the rule: If the admission to a show is over $15, don't bother eating before you show up! Truthfully? I was fine with skipping dinner, too!

It also got me thinking about the article I wrote below. A Soolip Wedding was luxurious, but there were so many things that could be tweaked for lower budgets, too. Jen O'Sullivan was the event's photographer, go to her facebook page and look at the rest of her pictures. Different colored succulents. The candy buffet. Stuff you can DIY or build less expensively. Shows like this one are really a live inspiration board. I love going to them, because I always find something my couples can use, every time.


So, how's your wedding going? If you're starting to feel like you could use some help, or just a little bit of advice, email me back and we'll schedule your complimentary consultation this week. I'd love to help you in any way you need.

Cheers,

Liz C.

Friday, March 02, 2012

Weddings as Economic Privilege, part XV11

A Practical Wedding posted a week back about a study that showed that women in lower income brackets/without college degrees were getting married in lower rates than women who made more money. Meg posited that marriage was becoming an economic privilege, and I thought about it, and I've concluded that it's not marriage, it's weddings.
The first question in my Ask Liz Column today was from a bride who didn't even have $5,000 to spend, and was afraid that her wedding would be a horrible tacky affair in her backyard. To society at large, marriage = a wedding = an event that represents the $20,000 national average cost of a wedding. The fluffy princess dress and the cake, and the chiavari chairs. Those are the first things that come to mind when anyone says "wedding".
Marriage? Marriage will cost you $90 for the license and you can have a ceremony wherever you want (see yesterday's post). You can have a friend get notarized for free and marry you. You can hire someone from Craigslist to marry you. You can get married anywhere you want, and build the wedding you want with you have, but that's not the first thing that people think of.
To have $20,000+ to spend on a wedding, wherever it comes from, is an economic privilege. It takes a fair percentage of that to even hire me.
Can you have a wonderful wedding for less than that? Of course you can. But you have to be willing to do what it takes to do it. Every wedding takes patience and work. Smaller budget weddings take more determination, too. And an open mind.
Everyone deserves to have the wedding they want. A big part of that is determining what that really, truly is.

See y0u at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
323-592-9318

Thursday, March 01, 2012

Andrew and Nikkia Get Married!


Andrew called me last week - he and his fiancee Nikkia wanted to get married at The Griffith Observatory, on Leap Year Day, and they needed an officiant. Sounded like fun, so I met them at Sunset yesterday. It was cloudy and silver and golden, and we had a beautiful view of Downtown L.A. to the east, and the Pacific Ocean to the west. I read their ceremony from my ipad, they read their vows (which made me cry) off their iPhones, and their friend and witness Eric shot pictures of the whole thing. It was perfect. "When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible," I read. Yes, yes you do.
Congratulations, you guys. You made the day your own, and it rocked.

I love this gig, I really, really do. Whether it's planning a full-scale wedding extravaganza or three people on a side of the hill, it's all about the love. The love is what's important, you know? That's what we're all there for.
So. What do you want your wedding to look like. Just let me know what you need...

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com