Thursday, June 30, 2011

Getting Your Guests to Dress the Part



Let's Welcome Marriage.com's Guest Poster, Jennifer Lai:

Let’s face it—when it comes to your big day, you want everything to be perfect. You find the right venue, agonize over wedding colors, plan matching invitations and linens, and spend months looking for your dress—not to mention just about everything else. All the details are set, and you imagine walking down the aisle in your special day: the carefully-chosen flowers, the elaborate d├ęcor, your beautiful wedding gown… and Uncle Harry grinning at you in his favorite Hawaiian shirt, which is STILL stained from last summer’s cook-off. You try to ignore him and move on, but you just can’t help but notice your soon-to-be-husband’s college roommate in sweatpants (even though it’s been at least 5 years since he’s graduated), and your sister’s teenage son in his uniform of grimy ripped jeans. Talk about a ruined walk down the aisle. What happens when everything’s set, but the guests just don’t dress to impress?

We got that very question (regarding dress code and weddings) from one concerned bride. Jacqueline H. wrote, “What is a nice way to implement a dress code at the wedding? My wedding is a “casual wedding”, but I still want people to dress nicely.”

We went straight to our Marriage.com forums to see how engaged couples, expert wedding professionals, and married couples were responding:
One user, Amanda H., suggested that our bride-to-be include the dress code on the invitations directly—for example, “Please join us after the ceremony for our [insert phrasing for dress code] reception”. Amanda warned against saying formal, informal or casual—which can be very vague and not specific to guests at all. (What exactly do those terms mean anyways?) Instead she suggested terms like resort casual, cocktail attire, or business casual to give guests more detailed ideas. If you’re going to specify dress code, you might as well be specific—don’t leave your guests in the dark!

Linda M. brought up another great idea— using your wedding website and theme to inform your guests of the dress code. “[A wedding website] would be a good way to give people a vibe of what to expect at your wedding, thus giving them an idea of what to wear.” Linda definitely hit the nail on the head—if you unveil part of your theme for the wedding, guests will figure out quickly if you’re having a formal affair, more of a laidback cocktail soiree, or a fun rock & roll affair, as Linda mentioned.

But when it all comes down to the truth, guests will wear what they want to your wedding, and as Linda mentioned, “It [would be] unreasonable to enforce a dress code that is strict.” Do let the word out about your dress code (either formally by invitation, website, or by word of mouth) and then stop stressing! Although it is your special day, you can’t exactly control your guests, despite their fashion faux pas. If you’re still worried, just keep the photographers focused on you for your big day!
Thanks to all of the wedding experts and engaged couples at the Marriage.com forum for your ideas and advice! Want to see what people are saying about this topic? Check out the wedding conversation here!

Thanks, Jennifer! I'm also one of the wedding planning experts answering questions in the forums, so get one in there. It's a great place to find the answers you need.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, June 29, 2011

Wedding Wise Wednesday - June 29th

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week: I just...love this. @bridetide gives us the Groom's Cake alternative - fried chicken cookies. Man, guys are soo lucky. First, they don't have to wear heels, now this.


Cool, too: I coordinated a wedding recently where they hung these beautiful blue mason jars filled with flowers on the aisle chairs. Chris at Kiss My Tulle breaks down where you can get them for less.








The Deals:


It amazes me, how many places and ways there are to save money on dresses. Behold:

Renee Strauss for the Platinum Bride is having another of their fantastic sample sales this weekend. The last time I hit one of these, I got three gorgeous ball gowns for, oh, NINETY-NINE DOLLARS. You heard me. Go. And if you go on Saturday after 11am, they serve cake.

Alfred Angelo?
Bridesmaid Bash! Save $15 on every Bridesmaid and special occasion dress. Yup, you're welcome.

Enchanted Bridal in Chatsworth is having a summer clearance sale. Dresses marked up to 60% off. Tuxedo rentals 20% off. Accessories up to 30% off.I mean, invitations are 15% off. They don't call it a one stop shop for nothing. Sale is going on July 1 -11th. Plan accordingly.


Let's see, what else...

Ooh! Tessa Kim is celebrating July 4th by giving you a 15% discount on any of the pretty in their online store when you use the code TKJuly4th at check out. Thanks to Wedding Chicks for the find.

L.A. Photo Party
is giving a 10% discount on their photo booth packages,when you mention the Broke Ass Brigade Newsletter. Which, you, of course, are subscribed to, right? More deals there, too. Yes, I'm biased. But that doesn't mean I'm wrong. :-)

So, which deal do you think you are going to take advantage of? What would you like to see more of? Let me know in the comments below...

See you at the end of the aisle and Happy Fourth of July,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Monday, June 27, 2011

A Love Letter to the Summer Brides


I wrote this on The Broke Ass Bride just about a year ago, and it still rings true. Oh, and the picture is by Sun-Dance photography. Click on it and see more of her magic, too.

So, it’s June, which means that between now and Labor Day, which is like, tomorrow, practically, a whole bunch of you are finally – finally - going to walk down the aisle. All the plans you’ve made over the past months… heck, years even, are about to come to fruition, right in front of your very eyes. The Marines call a soldier near the end of their tour of duty a “short timer”, and right now, you’re so short, I can’t even see you. It’s almost over.

Whew!

And, Awww…

Whichever you choose, either the “Whew!” or the “Awww…" or somewhere in between (or both) you have to admit that it’s been quite an experience, hasn’t it? You’ve learned a lot. You’ve not only figured out all this wedding stuff works, but you’ve also found out more about yourself, what you want, and even more importantly, since you’re going to be hanging out with this guy for the rest of your life, how the two of you work together as a team.

What else have you learned? You’ve certainly had many chances to practice and improve your “people” skills, not to mention managing your time . You’ve learned how to negotiate, how to compromise, and how to – and how not to – stick to a budget. At this point, you can rapidly calculate 5 – 18% of anything. At the beginning of this whole thing, you were wondering where to start and how to start, and GAH, frustration! But look at you now – you found your venue, you found your dress, you found your photographer and got through your engagement shoot, you found everything else you needed and wanted. And you learned that all it takes to get that is perseverance and patience, and raising your hand and asking questions that you don’t know the answers to. And you got from there to here more or less in one piece, just like I knew you would. You are a frickin’ Rock Star, and you can do anything. Remember that.

“But, Liz!” you say. “I’ve still got a checklist a mile long, and no time to finish it. I’m more stressed out than ever!” Well, yeah.

First of all, if you need some help, you know who to ask. :-)

But most importantly, when it does get to be too much, think about all the cool moments you’ve had along the way: When you tried on your last wedding dress and knew it was the one. The inside joke you and your guy now have because of something the caterer said. The way your stomach hurt after laughing your way through your bridal shower. And smile.

And then think about what your wedding day is going to be like: The look on his face when he sees you coming down the aisle in THE dress. All the people that you’re so excited to see because you haven’t been in the same room with them for years. Slow-dancing with your husband to your favorite song. How good dinner is going to taste when you execute Rule #3. Think about the music, think about the joy in the room, think that when it’s all said and done, you’re going to be married to the love of your life, and you’ve had a great party to celebrate it. Do me a favor – at some point during the reception, take a good look around the room and soak it in. It’s all there for you. Oh, sorry, one more favor – Enjoy it.

You’re almost there. Victory Pump!

So, what have you learned about yourself while you’ve planned your wedding? And what have been some of your favorite moments along the way? Let me know in the comments below!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Wedding Wise Wednesday - June 22

Every Wednesday, I bring you the best wedding stories, deals and events in Los Angeles and around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week:

Cotton candy on tree branches and just about the prettiest candy buffet in the world? Yes, please! Check out the gorgeous on Brenda's wedding blog. You're welcome!


Cool, too: You've heard of the Book Bridal Bargains, right? Well, it comes in kindle version, for only $9.96. You do not even want to know how fast I bought that when I found out. As in my fingers hurt from the friction fast. It currently lives happily on the kindle app on my phone.



The Events:

Saturday - Sunday, June 25 - 26
Saturday 9-5, Sunday 10-3pm
Glamour Closet Super Sample Sale
324 South La Brea Avenue
Los Angeles, CA 90036
THE massive sale on all their pre-owned dresses. Vera? Yes. Monique? Of course. Everything is $499, $999, or $1499. Put it in the smart phone NOW. on Jun 25 & 26,! All gowns - think Vera! Monique! - will be priced at either $499, $999, or $1499! Saturday: 9-5, Sunday:10-3!

Saturday, June 25th
11:00 AM - 5:00 PM
The Ivory Suite Bridal Boutique - Summer Sample Sale
803 Meridian Ave
South Pasadena, CA 91030
More Couture gowns, more discounts. But you have to make an appointment for this one - 626-799-2991 or the ivorysuite@gmail.com

Saturday, June 25th
12:00pm - 4:00pm
Bride's Day Out
Hosted by Jennifer Rose Event Design
Beauty 360
1570 Rosecrans Ave.
Manhattan Beach, CA 90266

You've found your fabulous gown, now it's cocktail and cake time. And Jennifer Rose and Beauty 360 are ready to deliver. For Free. You're putting this in your calendar now, right?

Sunday, June 26th

Brideworld Expo

DoubleTree Hotel Ontario
222 N Vineyard Ave
Ontario CA 91764
Save $2 on admission by registering online.


Deals:


Brides Rally - 8 hours of photography for $1260.00. Totally worth checking out, if you're still looking. But of course, you've already signed up for the Brides Rally newsletter...right?


This beautiful J.Crew wedding dress is on sale for $208 (30% off), plus free shipping when you use the code MUSTHAVE at checkout. Thanks to @BudgetBridesChi for the find.


WedOBO - I love social buying. This week they're offering the online name changing service Ms. Now Mrs. for $15. It's regularly $29.99. Changing your name is a pain, make it easier. For cheaper.

Crane, The wedding invitation i ching, is having a sale. Purchase 75 invitations and receive 25 free.

Michael's - 20% off entire purchase for all your DIY-ers. Thanks to @momwhosave for this find, too.

Weddingish is offering this "Cinderella" tiara for only $50.00.

So, which deal are you definitely going to take advantage of? Let me know below. My money is on Wed-OBO. $15 to save you 13 hours and a trip to the DMV? SOLD!

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318
liz@silvercharmevents.com

Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Wedding Wise Wednesday - June 15th

Every Wednesday I bring you the best wedding stories, events and deals that I find in Los Angeles and around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome.

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week - This Pillow & Blanket Fort Engagement Session shot by Alante Photography in Seattle. Completely grinnable. And look at all the colors! Thanks to Style Unveiled for the find.

Cool, too: Newlymaid! Are all those bridesmaid dresses in your closet giving Katherine Heigel a run for her money? Newlymaid will send you a pre-paid mailer for your old gowns, and receive a 30-50% discount on one of Newlymaid's little black dresses, like this one here.

The Events:

DIY Wedding Flowers with FlourLA - An Encore Bridal Event
Sunday, June 19, 2011

4:30 PM - 6:30 PM
Encore Bridal Showroom
3215 Highland Ave
Manhattan Beach, CA 90266
Floral Designer, Carly Cylinder from Flour will show you how to make beautiful bouquets for you and your bridesmaids. Tickets are only $16 each. She holds these every six months or so, and I've heard nothing but rave reviews. Check it out.

Put it on your calender:

June 25 - 26
Saturday 9-5, Sunday 10-3pm
Glamour Closet Super Sample Sale
324 South La Brea Avenue
Los Angeles, CA 90036
THE massive sale on all their pre-owned dresses. Vera? Yes. Monique? Of course. Everything is $499, $999, or $1499. Put it in the smart phone NOW. on Jun 25 & 26,! All gowns - think Vera! Monique! - will be priced at either $499, $999, or $1499! Saturday: 9-5, Sunday:10-3!



The Deals

BridesRally.com - the newest bridal group buy website has a great deal this week - Gaku Murata's string trio for $462 (regularly $660) or a duo for $329 (regularly $470). Great deal.

Better Off Wed is offering 10% off anything in her wedding decor etsy shop, when you use the code I HEARTTHEBROKEASSBRIDE. Which I found in the Broke Ass Bride newsletter, of course. Keeping it in the family, y'all.

Follow me on twitter @lizcoopersmith to see what else I pick up and out during the week. Found some really cool things this morning that didn't make it the post - again - so check it out.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
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Wednesday, June 08, 2011

Wedding Wise Wednesday - June 8

Every Wednesday I bring you the coolest wedding stories, events and deals in Los Angeles and around the web. And we call it Wedding Wise Wednesday. Welcome!

Cool Wedding Article of the Week - Real Simple tells You How to make toasts. My only advice? Keep it short, and raise your glass to then at the end of it. Real Simple supplies the details.

Cool Wedding Thing of the Week: Unique Vintage is now carrying Dolly Couture Wedding Dresses! Thanks to the Broke Ass Brigade Newsletter for the find.

Speaking of which, scroll down for my own special deal this week...


The Events

Thursday, June 9
Macy's Sip & Scan
6:30 pm
Macy's Del Amo
21600 Hawthorne Blvd
Torrance, CA 90503
310-370-8511 x 2640
Time to get started on the registry? Time to start on the registry with the scan gun in one hand and a cocktail in the other. They're having a few of these across L.A. this month, so if this day doesn't work for you, you can find another one that does.

Thursday, June 9
7pm - 10pm
Michelle Rahn Launch party
Bridal Bar
624 North Doheny Drive
West Hollywood
(Santa Monica and Doheny Drive)
Check out her new wedding dress collection and enjoy drinks, mini-hair trials and overall fabulousness for a night. I love these things, they're so much fun, especially when they're free. :-)

The Deals:

Trightymight Event Lighing and Decor is offering 1/2 off their premium poly/blend white, banquet style chair covers. Now they're only $2.35 per cover, and there's NO minimum order. GO! BANQUET CHAIR COVERS

Loveall Bridal (Formerly Jobyna's Bridal) continues their biggest Designer Sale of the year this Saturday - Up to 75% off designer gowns and accessories.



Looking for eco-friendly wedding favors? Dream Green Wedding is offering free shipping off any order of $150 or more (for a wedding of 100, that's $1.50 per guest, so you're gonna hit that, easy), just use the code Freeship150

Urban Scarlet is having a summer sale on everything. Click on the link to find out how to get another additional 15% off, too.



And finally, my deal. If you donate in any amount to Dishing for Dana, you'll get $150 off any of my wedding planning services. All you have to do is forward your paypal receipt to me at liz@silvercharmevents.com . Visit www.silvercharmevents.com to see what I've got that you're definitely going to need!

Wanna see what else I pick up and out during the week? Follow me on twitter @lizcoopersmith. Found some really cool things this morning that didn't make it the post, so check it out.

See you at the end of the aisle,

Liz Coopersmith
Silver Charm Events
www.silvercharmevents.com
liz@silvercharmevents.com
323-592-9318